Time-Tested Relationship Advice
If you’ve recently split with your significant other and you want to get them back, we highly recommend you read the articles on this site. It is our sincere hope that, somewhere within these pages, you can find answers to your problems. If you read long enough you’ll be a relationship expert yourself!
Relationship problems come in all shapes and sizes, and every couple is different. Some common issues we always get questions about include:
• How can I get breakup help that will make me feel better?
• Can cheating partner make things right again
• Will relationship breakup advice help me move on?
• I messed up, how can I win a woman back?
• Can I learn How to end an affair or am I in too deep?
We’ll take a deep look at all of these problems and more throughout this site, but the main thing I want you to know is that you have a friend here.
Once you read through some of these pages and start to see what some other people have been through, I know you won’t feel so alone. You’ll begin to see that everyone has these problems, and that there is some time tested relationship that can help you right now.
Secrets for a Happy, Healthy, and Fulfilling Relationship
1. Honesty – This is the cornerstone of any truly healthy relationship. Now, honesty does not mean saying, “Uh, yeah, that dress really does make you look fat,” every chance you get. That’s just a recipe for disaster. However, being honest about money, where you spend your time, and your plans for the future are all examples of honesty that a relationship needs to survive and thrive. Once deception starts to take hold in a relationship, it gets easier and easier for partners to lie to each other. What once started out as a little white lie about a bar tab or where you spent your Saturday afternoon can spiral into bigger and bigger lies? By talking regularly with your partner about the important things in your life, and sharing your fears and concerns, you cement a deeper bond.2. Respect - This one doesn’t just apply to romantic relationship advice, it basically applies to all human relationships: work relationships, family relationships, and your relationship with your significant other. If a deep-seated disrespect is present in a relationship, it cannot continue to grow. Respect is an especially important element for men to feel from their women. Men need to feel respected at home to really feel like a man. Women also need to be respected, of course, and this is especially true of the way in which couples communicate with each other in public. For example, all couples should be very careful not to ‘put down’ or otherwise discount their partner when talking to friends or co workers. This kind of negative talk from a partner can make a man feel less like a man, and will make a woman feel unappreciated and inadequate. However, for some reason we all feel the urge to complain about our partners in public. This is a natural desire, but just be aware of this and remember to respect your partner. A key rule here I like to keep in mind: how would you feel if what you were saying about your partner was to be video taped and played for your Mother? Would you be proud of what you’re saying, or ashamed? Let that be your compass when talking about your partner with others.
3. Love – Ah, amore. What an amazingly difficult emotion to define! We all want it and crave it, and we often do some amazingly stupid things to get it, don’t we? Instead of trying to define love here, I want to dispense a few bits of relationship advice here to help you strengthen the love in your relationship. First, you need to say it. You need to tell your partner you love them all the time. Who doesn’t like to hear that they are loved? Second, you need to show it. Saying you over someone a hundred times is not as good as an act of love. This could be something as romantic as buying flowers, or as mundane as getting their car washed. The second example there isn’t as much ‘fun,’ but it’s still and act of love. Third, you must refrain from things that can damage or destroy love. Love is a fragile, living thing, and must be cared for like any other living thing. Cheating, lying, and hurtful words are like poison to a relationship, and can kill that fragile thing we call love.
4. Passion - This doesn’t just mean sex, although I’ll bet a dollar that’s what just popped in your mind. You dirty pervert, you. Just kidding, pretty much all of us associate the word passion with love making, whether we admit it or not! While love making and passion are important elements of a successful relationship, passion in a relationship can be expressed in many different ways. Successful couples find ways to be passionate towards each other outside of sex – that may mean being passionate about shared goals, future dreams, or working on something together. This could even mean becoming passionate about getting out of debt, or saving up enough money to go on a great vacation. Finding new things to get excited about is crucial to keeping a relationship going. This can also apply to the bedroom, where trying new things can be one of the best ways keep the passion alive.5. Communication – You may have heard that you have two ears and one mouth for a reason: you should talk half as much as you listen! This is a very true axiom, and you should practice listening more in your relationship. We all want to voice our opinions and be respected, but just remember that when you listen, you are giving your partner the gift of being heard and being respected. Also, when you listen to what your partner says, they will feel much better about themselves and in turn will treat you better and listen to you more. It has to be a two way street, you cannot just listen all the time. However, by paying attention to how to two of you communicate, you can strengthen and deepen your relationship.
6. Friendship – Want to know what the best piece of relationship advice is for the long term? Friendship! At the end of the day, what we all really want is a friend to lean on a get us through the tough times this life can throw at us. Sometimes we get so caught up in the drama of ur relationships, and it’s helpful to step back and ask ourselves “Would I treat a friend this way?” If the two of you can find some common ground and common interests, that will go a long way towards a happy and fulfilling relationship. To quote, we all need somebody to lean on. Great relationship advice there,
7. Understanding – I’m no Saint, neither are you, my friend. That’s part of what makes this human experience so interesting! You need to have understanding and sympathy for your relationship to flourish. That doesn’t mean she should accept that he was out until 4am at the bar with some girl, or that he should accept verbal abuse from his girl. However, life throws lots of challenges our way, and sometimes things aren’t going to go perfectly. This is where understanding comes in. You need to have a level of understanding that things don’t always go perfectly, and if you communicate opening about your challenges, you will strengthen your relationship.
How to Handle Teenage Relationship Problems?
Teenage relationship problems are par for the course. While every relationship has its issues, during the teenage years the ups and downs seem to be magnified due to raging hormones and inexperience. Yet teens don't always recognize the signs of a troubled relationship until they are too embroiled in the situation to get out or to get out unscathed.While there are a number of signs that pinpoint a relationship that is either not working or is in danger of falling apart, some signs that point toward a breakup are simple and can be handled easily:
1.Arguing: Avoid never-ending fights or bickering. Instead, try to reason with your partner, and understand his concerns. Do not belittle his problems. What might be a mole hill to you might be a mountain to your partner. Try to understand where he is coming from, and respect his decisions.
2.Support And Encouragement: Support your partner in his endeavors. Even if one party does not enjoy or participate in sports, the other party should respect the time and work that their partner puts into the sport in order to do well. Support your partner by attending his sporting events and allowing them the sleep and practice time needed in order to be all he can be in his chosen activity. The same is true of other activities, such as drama, school politics or after-school employment.
3.Don't Tread On Family and Friends: Never cut down your partner's family or friends. Allow your partner to maintain relationships with his friends and family. At the same time, both parties need to spend time together as a couple. This is not always easy, but can be accomplished with a little work.
4.Obsessive Behavior: Constantly checking their partner's cell phone and e-mail is a surefire way of causing issues between the two of you, as well as with his family and friends. If you respect your partner's ability to decide whom he speaks with, this issue won't arise. If you cannot deal with certain issues, such as your boyfriend taking calls from her old girlfriend, it's not unreasonable to speak with him about this. If he promises to stop and doesn't, maybe it's time to move on.
5.Controlling Demeanor: One of the toughest things to learn during teenage dating is that you should have control over your own actions, and your partner should have control over his own actions. When you become a couple, it does not mean that you control the other person's actions, speech, the way he dresses or where he hangs out, whom he hangs out with or the places he chooses to visit. If you have an issue with what your partner does in his spare time, talk to him. If some of these places and/or people are dangerous, voice your concern. If your partner doesn't agree with you, but his behavior is clearly dangerous, tell his parents. It's better to have your partner angry with you than to allow him to get into a situation that can cause bodily harm.
6.Don't Compare Relationships: Don't bring up an old boyfriend, and don't compare your current relationship to a past relationship. While you can consider the differences and similarities in your own mind, your partner will not be anxious to hear about what a former boyfriend did right and what you're doing wrong. Instead, talk about this issue with your partner in a manner that is not threatening and does not involve an old flame.
8.Dealing With Someone You Don't Want To Date: If you tell someone that you are not interested in dating him and he doesn't leave you alone, it's time to involve a higher authority, such as a parent or teacher.
9.Unhappy Relationship: If you're dating someone and you are both unhappy, it's time to end the relationship.
10.Blind Dates: If your friends set you up on a blind date and you're interested in going out, then go. But if your friends are harassing you about the situation and you don't want to see this boy, don't. The choice is always yours.
Remember, you're dating, not getting married. Teen dating should be fun. Although many relationships started in the teen years end quickly, you want to be able to have fond memories of your experiences.
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