Outsourcing For Human Resources
By: Andrea Watkins | - The human resources team within an organisation generally has overall responsibility for employee recruitment and setting up the strategies and procedures associated with managing personnel. Their role is crucial in an organisation as they are in charge of finding and securing the right people needed if the business is to survive and move forward in the future.

Its essential to have a quick and smooth process in todays competitive world if you want to find and hire those best quali ... Tags: human resources, RPO, performance management

Environmental Public Relations Initiatives Strive To Motivate The Public To Help The Environment
By: Kevin Waddel | - In this day and age, it is not enough to sit on the sidelines and watch the environmental battles that occur on a daily basis play out in the public arena. The very real impact that environmental misconduct can have on the planet is simply staggering. Look at deforestation, the high number of extinct species, global warning, and the poor quality of air in some major cities across the world, some right here in the United States of America. Despite what some on air conservative pundits would ha ... Tags: Environmental public relations

Telecom Public Relations Firms Help Big Corporations Repair Their Damaged Reputations
By: Kevin Waddel | - Big corporations get a bad rap sometimes. They are sometimes unfairly vilified as lumbering behemoths that do not care about the human impact of the policies, and are only motivated by money. This horrible reputation is so entrenched in the American psyche, that no amount of spin could reverse it. It is up to each individual corporation to convince the general public that they are in fact a force for good in the world, and are far from the evil giant that they are made out to be in the press and ... Tags: Telecom Public Relations

Technology Public Relations Firms Have To Accentuate The Positive Aspects Of Technology
By: Kevin Waddel | - Todays technological achievements truly are astounding. The things that we can do with great ease today would have confounded and perplexed previous generations. It would have been quite a shock for a denizen of the Middle Ages or from Feudal Japan to walk into a modern day electronics store. More than likely, these individuals would stand mouths agape at the twinkling wonders that seem sound bountiful. They would have a hard time comprehending many of the devices purposes, let alone know ... Tags: Technology Public Relations

Smart Grid Public Relations Firms Have To Sell The General Public On The Merits
By: Kevin Waddel | - As energy costs continue to rise at an exponential rate, year after fiscal year, consumers are struggling to find a way to reduce their energy costs. Some consumers have lessened the amount of energy they consume on a daily basis. This means using electronic devices less, and trying to excise waste from ones energy use as much as possible. These concerns are only compounded by the fact that human beings as a whole are becoming increasingly dependent on technology to live their lives. This mea ... Tags: Smart Grid Public Relations

Pharma Public Relations To Accentuate The Good Pharma Companies Do For Mankind
By: Kevin Waddel | - These days, in light of recent events, with more than a few military conflicts escalating by the hour; compounded by the worst economic crisis since the Great Depression, it is necessary to realize that people are simply fed up. That may sound like a gross over simplification, but the sentiment rings true regardless. People do not suffer fools lightly anymore. This is especially true when someone or some corporation tries to take financial advantage of the everyday, hard working American. Perhap ... Tags: Pharma Public Relations

Green Energy Public Relations Help Convince People The World"��s Energy Crisis
By: Kevin Waddel | - The desire to go green is becoming increasingly prevalent in the modern age. People have grown tired of the slothful environmental practices of previous generations and they are fed up with them. They want to strike out on their own, and will do so by any means necessary. This means that many individuals are working hard to make the world a better and cleaner place, often to their own detriment, financially and socially. But the hippie stigma is slowly fading as a larger and larger portion ... Tags: Green Energy Public Relations

Be Part Of A Company"��s Backbone In The Human Resources Management Department
By: Emma | - If you enjoy recruiting people for a cause, organizing and space planning, improving systems that are already in place, helping people become oriented with some new things, interacting with a variety of people, and ensuring safety and wellness of those around you, then perhaps a job in human resources management may be for you. Centennial College in Toronto, Ont. offers a Business Administration Human Resources program to get you job-ready.

Known for setting trends and ensuring ... Tags: human resources management, business administration

Energy Public Relations Firms Help Energy Firms Stay Afloat Financially
By: Kevin Waddel | - In the hustle and bustle of todays fast paced world, it should come as no surprise that energy generation has become something of a contentious topic of conversation among concerned citizens and large corporations alike. The human race needs energy to power the many tricky contraptions that they have developed over the years. These awe inspiring products, which here to fore would have been thought of as impossible and mere fantasy just several hundred years ago, make peoples lives better. ... Tags: Energy Public Relations

Cleantech Public Relations Show The Error Of Wasteful Ways
By: Kevin Waddel | - These days, people are simply fed up with wasteful energy companies and their reckless environmental policies. There have far too many oil spills and similar environmental disasters that have brought the natural world to its knees. People have a limit to what they can deal with, and the many incidents of wanton corporate disregard for the environment have finally gotten people riled up to deal with them problem. Many outraged activists are fed up with these sorts of events that cause irreparable ... Tags: Cleantech Public Relations

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Ten Commandments of Human Relations

by Rubel Shelly on September 23, 2008
Category: Leading in Hope

The fundamental issue in human ethical behavior is summarized by Jesus in what we have come to call "The Golden Rule." Jesus put it this way:

So in everything, do to others what you would have them do to you, for this sums up the Law and the Prophets (Matthew 7:12 TNIV).

It asks us to test our treatment of others by putting ourselves in their place. Treat others the way you would want them to treat you in the same or similar circumstance.

Made in God’s image, all of us have something to be valued!

Somebody took that principle and translated it into Ten Commandments of Human Relations. You may have seen this anonymous piece, for it circulates in a variety of settings. In case you have missed it, I am reproducing it here.

1. Speak to people. There is nothing as nice as a cheerful word of greeting.
2. Smile at people. It takes 72 muscles to frown, only 14 to smile.
3. Call people by name. It is music to anyone’s ears to hear the sound of his or her name.
4. Be friendly and helpful.
5. Be cordial. Speak and act as if everything you do is genuinely a pleasure. If it isn’t, learn to make it so.
6. Be genuinely interested in people. You can like almost anyone, if you try.
7. Be generous with praise, cautious with criticism.
8. Be considerate of the feelings of others. There are usually three sides to a controversy — yours, the other fellow’s, and the correct one.
9. Be alert to serve. What counts most in life is what you do for others.
10. Live with a good sense of humor, a generous dose of patience, and a dash of humility appropriate to being human.

The great challenge in human experience is not work skills, but people skills. That is, research has shown that the majority of people who fail in their vocation do so because they cannot get along with people.
You might think through the meaning of these ten common-sense ideas for your own workplace and personal activity. But what about the larger setting for your daily life? These principles work everywhere you go, for they are about showing respect to the people you meet in all those places.
Made in God’s image, all of us have something to be valued, affirmed, and acknowledged by others. But let it begin with us to acknowledge it in them. As the cycle of giving and receiving enlarges, the human community comes alive.

How to recognize a good man when you see one?

Any woman aspiring to have a man who makes her laugh when she is down and who laughs her when she is up, a man who listens and asks questions and responds is already up to find the right guy that suits her A man who rubs your feet to put you to sleep and who goes out for cafe mochas when you have to stay up and who knows that on those working all nighters the answer to any question involving whipped cream is yes

How to recognize a good guy when you see him?

Any woman aspiring to have a man who makes her laugh when she is down and who laughs her when she is up, a man who listens and asks questions and responds is already up to find the right guy that suits her A man who rubs your feet to put you to sleep and who goes out for cafe mochas when you have to stay up and who knows that on those working all nighters the answer to any question involving whipped cream is yes

Six things that mean it's time to dump your boyfriend

A simple list to help you decide whether or not it is time to get rid of your current boyfriend. Do you think they are treating you in the right manner? Well have a look at this list of 6 things which are a want and a need if you want a healthy and strong relationship.

5 Types Of Women To Avoid

1- The Smart-Ass

What man doesn’t enjoy a cerebral opponent? What man doesn’t want a woman who has an opinion, has a personality and can participate in a conversation or debate on just about any topic? Of course a hot body is a turn-on, but a true Player recognizes a hot mind and a blazing personality. These are the absolute aphrodisiacs. A woman with verbal confidence is a true catch. But when confidence is locked on contentious and confrontational, you should make plans to avoid her. The Smart-Ass drips sarcasm.

8 Myths of Being Single

An article in yahoo.com written by Bella DePaulo breaks the myths of being single. In the article, the eight myths are stated and explained why they are wrong. For example, the myth that singles are less happy than married people. This is wrong since according to a study, marriage don't have a huge impact on adding happiness. For the article, click the link.

Narcissistic Love, The Madonna/Whore Complex

Some men suffer from a psychological complex, according to Sigmund Freud, known as the Madonna/Whore Complex.  It renders them incapable of combining love and sex to form a healthy and normal relationship.  To these men, love and sex are immensely separate entities and can only be experienced with two (or more) people.

Long Distance Intimacy

Any relation to succeed should have some contact level. If the two people involved are sataing apart from each other or they are staying in differenct cities or countries, they need to keep in touch with each other quite often. they must maintain regular contact so that the relationship stays intact. to get the best out of such a long distance matter, the two partners must make a real, concerted, and sincere effort. they must go out of their way to ensure that the contact between them says intact. They must send letter to each other and talk over the phone.

Can You Make It Work With A Girl With Depression?

Is it possible to make a relationship work out with a girl you love who is depressed? I'm not sure but everything points to no. Girls that are depressed often have deep issues and if they are not willing to talk to you about them and let you help resolve them, your relationship is doomed. You can meet the most beautiful girl in the world, but if she thinks she is ugly you will never have a chance with her. She will end up abandoning you because her depression gets in the way. The only way to be with the girl you love if she is depressed is to get her help.

How Come My Girlfriend Is So Mean To Me?

Many girls can be mean to you because they don't really know what they want. They will tell you things and when you listen and act on them the girl will get angry with you. It's really challenging to read girls because they are all different and think in a completely different way than you. If you do the opposite of what they say you will still be wrong. There is a way however to navigate through a relationship and make everything work.

The secrets of women about men

The woman wants sensitivity and affection from the man.
The woman will always prefer a man that is affectionate and sensitive to his needs, most men needs to come down to women’s thought level, this will enable them to relate with their spouse effectively with little or no issues. Women want to be loved at all time even in their errors, we all make mistakes, the most important thing is to learn from our mistakes. Men should learn to forgive their spouse at all time to sustain a smooth relationship.

Holding Each Other’s Hand (Poem)

We walk and dearly hold each other’s hand We hold the mem’ries here when we were young And as we stole together life’s still grand We shared in all the things that were to come
And as we pass young lovers once as we We hold each other closer as they go Remembering things that they do not foresee Was for this moment’s richness we did sow

How to Attract a Gemini

Are you looking to make a connection with a Gemini? Those born under the sign of Gemini are considered to be smart, energetic, polite, quick witted, talkative and very versatile people. Some of his weak traits are he can be superficial, inconsistent, inquisitive, cunning and prone to nervousness and tense at times. A Gemini is known for his dual personalities and ability to change mood from moment to moment.

When To Put Your Foot Down In A Relationship?

There are times in your relationship when you feel that you are really drained out and have nothing left to give. At this time you need recognition for what you’ve done, not only this but also you want your partner to give something in return, so that you do not feel that you are the only one trying hard to keep the relationship alive. This something means “effort” from the other side, and can be in any form (not necessarily tangible).

You Can't Please Everyone, So Stop Trying And Start Living

We have all been there. We have all been stuck once, some people get stuck more, some less, but we all know what it is like to be stuck in a situation where you have to choose between what you want and what everyone else wants.
Say you have two good friends. One wants a burger. The other wants chinese. Both restaurants are at opposite ends of the town. What do you do? You get into a mind juggle wondering if you should be helping Burger Boy out or Chinese Chap when you actually just feel like a salad. This is just one scenario.

Looking for Love? Be Social

Your chance of getting loved is enhanced when you give yourself to others. Giving yourself to others even mean doing some voluntary work. It does not mean doing something for your prospective love just to flatten.
It has been found out by researchers that an altruistic person is loved more by both male and female. However, there may some difference in terms of the nature of the desired relationship. For short term relationship, generosity is not an issue. On the other hand, for long term relationship, being generous and altruistic pays.

Nice Girls Don't Get Love

Do you think, being a nice girl will mean a solid step in the journey of valentine? The answer is emphatic no. It has been said again and again by relationship experts that don't be a nice girl if you want to attract man of substance.
Read this enthralling article for more on this.

3 Things Girl Wants in a Guy

What Girls are looking for?
Girls want a guy who is confident
This is very important. Guys should understand the meaning of CONFIDENCE! You must show you have no fear of rejection. Say something smooth. Women dig a guy who seems sure of themselves. It allows them to let down their guard and feel secure. Stroll up to her and go for it!
Second: The 30-second rule!

How Important is TOUCH in a RELATIONSHIP?

Have you ever held your partner’s hand and felt a tingling sensation through every cell in your body? Ever yearned for a hug from your partner, more than anything else in the world? Is it an essential part of relationships? Humans thrive on touch. Research has shown that, for humans and animals, a lack of physical contact can lead to emotional disturbances, reduced sexual interest and even a weakened immune system.

He's Just Not Worth It - The Warning Signs

The dating game can be a hard one to play, particularly if you’re newly single or have been single for a significantly long time. There are many people (men and women) who are just not worth it.  Dating is time intensive, expensive both emotionally and in monetary terms, so whoever you choose has to be worth all the effort. I’m no expert at dating and I’m never going to make any money as an agony aunt but I would like to share with you a few warning signs that I have picked up along the way. If these signs are familiar to you, pick up the phone now and end it.

things that girls do care but boys couldn't be bothered

                These are few things that we care like hell but the guy thought it was ‘not a big deal things’...Most importantly, the we feel that way because we  LOVE our guy..this only limit to those teens in a relationship..Not all guys like this but most of them suit it..take a look and let us agree together..
Girl hate it when..

 Guilt, self-pitying, self-destruction, lack of motivation and longing are the notorious hallmarks of a mind cast errant into the void of a

5 Signs That Your Man's A Control Freak

This is a really helpful article. Are you worried that your man might be the controlling type? Being in a controlling relationship is not a good thing at all. He could end up doing some real damage to you if you never get out. Read this article to help you weed out the bad boyfriends.

Why you shouldn't live with your family when you get married

Living with your family when you're married could be a disaster. If you want to get along with everyone and have less drama in your relationship then the best thing to do is to move out and live on your own. Of course, it's not always is easy when you move out because it's expensive to live on your own and have to support a family too. Sometimes, parents or younger sibling might need your assistance and you're forced to live under one roof. However, it should be a temporary situation becuase if you live with your family more than a year, you will begin to see problems.

How to fix yourself up for housewives

Married women can fix themselves up more. If you do, you won’t have to deal with your man going around town and cheating on you. If you don’t dress up anymore and don’t care anymore, he will lose interest. Men are very visual beings and dressing down all the time can be a problem for him. He doesn’t want to see sweat pants all the time, face with no makeup, hair not wash, or teeth not cleaned. It’s a mistake if you think that it’s ok to look messy all the time. You will send him somewhere else.

Rules of Service 101

I recently had a bad experience with a plumber. It had nothing to do his plumbing skills, but it had everything to do with his people skills. He was disrespectful and rude while accusing my sitter of lying to avoid paying an overcharge. When I tried to explain to him that it was a simple misunderstanding, he wouldn’t hear it. Needless to say, his business number has been deleted from my contacts.

French Kissing On The Internet

                                                    It's finally happening, kissing online is about to be a reality. It's now time to take that online relationship to the next level. The Kajimoto Laboratory at the University Of Electro-Communications in Toyko, have created a way to simulate french kissing over the Internet.

Relationships: Living Together

So you have decided to take a leap in your relationship and move in with your partner, right? Both of you think it will be for the better and you love each other so much. I must admit myself that there are good benefits to living with our girlfriend and/or boyfriend but at the same time there are also bad points. Lets list all the bad points first and get those out the way and if you can live with the bad points and it doesn't really bother you as much, then it's safe to assume that you will absolutely be ready to move in together.

If She Had Listened To Her Mother

She'd gone camping with her husband's friends. She was cold, keeping it to herself. Max was talking to Bert and Jim while their wives, Connie and Slyvie kept up a cackle. If she did the calculations she had twice the education of all of them put together, her I.Q. about 50 points higher. Counting Max, twenty points higher. What was she doing in Oregon?

A New Beginning

My Childhood Memories

My Childhood was sweet, being bad in school.
Playing hide and seek and breaking all the rules.                            
And it was all for laughs, no matter what.
A nasty boy pinching girls on their butts.
I'd get in trouble but my reputation was on.
Though my punishment was double when I finally got home.
My sister's were mad, making me go to my room.
But I'd get glad from the smell of Mom's perfume.

Healthy Home - 5 Habits to keep

A healthy home is the desire of every married couple. This is an article on how to achieve this desire of every couple. What I refer to when I say healthy home is a home that is having it cool with each members of the family, especially the couple. We are going to discuss about attitudes that promote peace, unity, joy, progress etc in the family. Leaving and Cleaving: The Bible says in Genesis 2:24 Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh.

No Way, Jose

                                                None of us like hearing the word no, it has gotten a reputation as being a very negative word. We don't like hearing it or saying it. It can mean things like, I wont, you can't, stop, go away, no way jose, not in this lifetime, over my dead body, and the popular oh no you didn't.

Yo-Yo

She saw him on Yahoo. Nine months of hiding his visits from her, (he was 'visible' to everyone else). Nine months, and there gleams his nick.
She made herself invisible, then, closed the window.
It would not be that easy this time. In fact, it might never be, this time.
It was not the first he'd played this game with her. Maybe, if she was strong, it would be the last. If she was strong.
Alex had a way of popping up in her life, absorbing her, then spitting her out like a watermelon seed. No big bluster, no great force, just silence, absence.

Highschool issues: how to tell if a guy likes you

Highschool is an important milestone in any person's life, and being a highschooler myself there is always that one person that you really like.  The hardest part about it is that you can't tell if they like you back.  Here is a guide to tell if someone likes you:
I: Boys
A: How to tell if a guy likes you.

Using Communication Tricks to Make Him Feel like a Real Man

If you really want to hold onto your man you need to stay extra expressive in your relationship with him. No, you do not require showing attitude and exhibiting controlling behavior. They are actually too dangerous for your relationship. They can simply make your man run in the opposite direction. You actually need to make him feel special and manly through use of certain words. Fortunately, they are not difficult to express. You can learn about them in the following article.

Romantic and Exciting Things You can do for Your Boyfriend

Going out with boyfriend every weekend is not the only thing that can help you have a strong relationship with him. You actually need let him know that you care about him! But sometimes, action speaks louder than words and this is what you must implement in your relationship. Below is an article that discusses 5 things that you can do for your boyfriend to make him get completely touched by you. Use them to improve your relationship with him. The article also teaches exactly how you need to do them. So you really do not require any additional thinking.

How to Make Woman Loves You

I thought we heard about this many times. I heard that to get a woman is difficult and keep the relationship is more difficult. I just want to share a few tips about how to get woman in your life, find your true love or even how to make your relationship is better than before. Please read my tips below:

Long Distance Relationship Advice - Is There Still Love?

Have you ever been in a loving long distance relationship? Long distance relationships are tough. It is hard enough to communicate, provide support, give affection, have trust, show love and be everything your lover wants you to be in a more local relationship, let alone a long distance relationship.
Long distance relationships magnify every problem. If you think that your girlfriend or boyfriend is cheating on you, it is further compounded by the fact they do not live near you.

Country With Most Single Women For Dating

Latvia! Remember that name if you are one of those male travelers that feels the need to meet your future bride in another country. This country has far more women than men.
Apparently, 'high risk behavior' leads to the population decline of men. I'm not exactly sure what that means but it is a little alarming, particularly if you are a male travelling to Latvia looking for a wife (I don't recommend doing that, seriously, don't :-)

Rules To Talk Sexy With Your Spouse

Ready To Talk Sexy With Your Spouse? Talking sexy to your spouse is common thing in a marriage. In fact, expressions related to sexuality will add a surge in marriages. Talking sexy is one way to build a romance between the husband and wife. When couples do not have adequate time or facilities to build a romance, for example, to take time and funds for a vacation, talking sexy is a form of romance that is simple but effective. Read more...

What a Man Really Wants

Hello ladies! And gentlemen, also, as I think you may find this interesting. I was waiting in line at the grocery store last week and looked through a few women's magazines. Hey, I'll admit I have no clue what's going on in the fashion section. I'm a guy - blue is blue. You can call it robin's egg, cerulean, navy, royal, or turquoise, but it's all blue to me. One subject I am a self-proclaimed expert on is men. What we want, what we need, what we're really looking for in a partner. And what I read in some of those articles was severly lacking in substance.

What Should We Do if We Get Bored With Our Relationship?

How are you today? I hope we all find, healthy and everything goes well. This time I want to talk about relationship. Do you felt get bored with your relationship? I mean between your partner, in dating or between husband and wife. This may happen to us, but we don’t pay attention to this problem. I have good tips for us about how to overcome this problem.

Why he did not ask you for a second date

Have you ever been on a date with a guy you liked and thought everything was going fine. You waited for him to call you back, but he never called again. Here are 3 reasons that could be why he didn’t call you back.

Why is my girlfriend so mean?

Sometimes no matter what you do you will find that your girlfriend is very mean to you. There are many people who can do nothing wrong but your girlfriend will find a way to blame you for stuff and take out her anger on you. It's not a healthy relationship and you have to do something so that she does not continue to abuse you. Many girls will get mad because they did something or they have something to hide so they will secretly hold it inside and get mad at you for things that are not really your fault.

Beauty or Brains? What do you Look for in a Partner?

How to make a Relationship last

Being happy in a relationship takes hard work from both sides. it is of no use if efforts are a one-sided affair. Communication is the base to make any relationship last. Do you have an issue with any of his habits? Try speaking to him and sorting out the issue  than getting worked up about it. Does he show signs of being a nag? Why groan over the issue and become unhappy when you can talk it out between the six. When you stay unhappy, you are bound to make your partner feel unhappy which would ultimately make the both of you suffer.

Why Women Make Excuses in Bed?

It is common for some women to fake headaches when they don’t want to make love with their partner. Now, some scientists have tried to prove that there may be some valid reason behind this decision of some women for not wanting making love with their partners

How To Make a Relationship Last? 5 Golden Rules To a Successful Couple

You're in a relationship with the person of your dreams. You want to make it last, but how? These are five successfull steps you need to understand when you're in a relationship. Single people might think that it's really obvious, but if you're in a relationship, it may be a little bit difficult to still apply them.

Why is My Boyfriend So Mean? Mean Boyfriend 101

Why is my boyfriend so mean? This is one of the common questions among girls these days. You will find the answer here.
Many girls find it hard to understand this and always asks the question “why my boyfriend is so mean?”. It might be triggered due to various reasons. It might be because you asked him to come over and he didn’t. When you asked, he answered in a mean fashion that he will be bored. This does not necessarily indicate that you are a boring person.  This is just one example. Generally speaking girls will feel that their boyfriend is mean because of the way he speaks or behaves towards you.

Quotations about Relationships Man is a knot into which relationships are tied.

Quotations about Relationships

 Man is a knot into which relationships are tied. 


Having someone wonder where you are when you don't come home at night is a very old human need. 

Shared joy is a double joy; shared sorrow is half a sorrow. 

Remember, we all stumble, every one of us.  That's why it's a comfort to go hand in hand. 


There's one sad truth in life I've found
While journeying east and west -
The only folks we really wound
Are those we love the best.
We flatter those we scarcely know,
We please the fleeting guest,
And deal full many a thoughtless blow
To those who love us best.
~Ella Wheeler Wilcox


Don't smother each other.  No one can grow in the shade. 

For lack of an occasional expression of love, a relationship strong at the seams can wear thin in the middle.


Oh, the comfort - the inexpressible comfort of feeling safe with a person - having neither to weigh thoughts nor measure words, but pouring them all right out, just as they are, chaff and grain together; certain that a faithful hand will take and sift them, keep what is worth keeping, and then with the breath of kindness blow the rest away.

If you were going to die soon and had only one phone call you could make, who would you call and what would you say?  And why are you waiting?

Sometimes it is the person closest to us who must travel the furthest distance to be our friend. 

Sticks and stones are hard on bones
Aimed with angry art,
Words can sting like anything
But silence breaks the heart.


Assumptions are the termites of relationships. 


I like her because she smiles at me and means it. 


Someone to tell it to is one of the fundamental needs of human beings.


In the end, who among us does not choose to be a little less right to be a little less lonely. 

You can kiss your family and friends good-bye and put miles between you, but at the same time you carry them with you in your heart, your mind, your stomach, because you do not just live in a world but a world lives in you. 

Present your family and friends with their eulogies now - they won't be able to hear how much you love them and appreciate them from inside the coffin.

Piglet sidled up to Pooh from behind.  "Pooh!" he whispered.  "Yes, Piglet?"  "Nothing," said Piglet, taking Pooh's paw.  "I just wanted to be sure of you." 


I felt it shelter to speak to you.  ~Emily Dickinson


Are we not like two volumes of one book? 

Trouble is part of your life, and if you don't share it, you don't give the person who loves you enough chance to love you enough. 


Lust is easy.  Love is hard.  Like is most important. 

Basically, the only thing we need is a hand that rests on our own, that wishes it well, that sometimes guides us. 

Let us be grateful to people who make us happy, they are the charming gardeners who make our souls blossom.

When something is missing in your life, it usually turns out to be someone. 

To know when to go away and when to come closer is the key to any lasting relationship.  ~Doménico Cieri Estrada

Some people come into our lives and quickly go.  Some stay for a while, leave footprints on our hearts, and we are never, ever the same. 

No road is long with good company. 

Sometimes, we need a few people in our lives who will calmly call our bluff. 

If fame were based on kindness instead of popularity, on understanding and not on worldwide attention, you would be the biggest celebrity on earth.  And to my heart, you already are. 

Lots of people want to ride with you in the limo, but what you want is someone who will take the bus with you when the limo breaks down. 

Good company upon the road is the shortest cut.

There are times when two people need to step apart from one another, but there is no rule that says they have to turn and fire.  

In the coldest February, as in every other month in every other year, the best thing to hold on to in this world is each other. 

Soul-mates are people who bring out the best in you.  They are not perfect but are always perfect for you. 

There are couples a matchmaker would match every time - and couples who, for no rhyme or reason, rhyme. 

People change and forget to tell each other. 

Sometimes you have to get to know someone really well to realize you're really strangers. 

Sometimes two people need to step apart

and make a space between

that each might see the other anew,

in a glance across a room

or silhouetted against the moon.

Once the realization is accepted that even between the closest human beings infinite distances continue, a wonderful living side by side can grow, if they succeed in loving the distance between them which makes it possible for each to see the other whole against the sky.

You cannot be lonely if you like the person you're alone with. 

We are, many of us, a planet orbiting somebody's sun, unconscious of a lonely moon, orbiting our planet. 

How lucky I am to have something that makes saying goodbye so hard.  

Understanding Human Relationships

relationships we have with other people are projections of the relationships we have within ourselves.  Our external relationships and our internal relationships are in fact the same relationships.  They only seem different because we look at them through different lenses.
Let’s consider why this is true.  Where do all your relationships exist?  They exist in your thoughts.  Your relationship with another person is whatever you imagine it to be.  Whether you love someone or hate someone, you’re right.  Now the other person may have a completely different relationship to you, but understand that your representation of what someone else thinks of you is also part of your thoughts.  So your relationship with someone includes what you think of that person and what you believe s/he thinks of you.  You can complicate it further by imagining what the other person thinks you think of him/her, but ultimately those internal representations are all you have.
Even if your relationships exist in some objective reality independent of your thoughts, you never have access to the objective viewpoint.  You’re always viewing your relationships through the lens of your own consciousness.  The closest you can get to being objective is to imagine being objective, but that is in no way the same thing as true objectivity.  That’s because the act of observation requires a conscious observer, which is subjective by its very nature.
At first it might seem troublesome that you can never hope to gain a truly accurate, 100% objective understanding of your relationships.  You can never escape the subjective lens of your own consciousness.  That would be like trying to find the color blue with a red lens permanently taped over your eyes.  That doesn’t stop people from trying, but such attempts are in vain.  If you fall into the trap of trying to think of your relationships as objective entities that are external to you, you’ll be using an inescapably inaccurate model of reality.  Consequently, the likely outcome is that you’ll frustrate yourself to no end when it comes to human relationships.  You’ll make relating to other people a lot harder than it needs to be.  Intuitively you may know something is off in your approach to relationships, but you’ll remain stuck until you realize that every relationship you have with another person is really a relationship that exists entirely within yourself.
Fortunately, once you embrace the subjective nature of relationships, you’ll have a much easier time relating to people.  It’s easier to get where you want to go when you have an accurate map.  The subjective view of relationships implies that you can change or improve your relationships with others by working on the internal relationships within yourself.  Furthermore, you can improve your internal relationships, such as your self-esteem, by working on your relationships with others.  Ultimately it’s all the same thing.
Here’s a basic example of how this works.
When I first met Erin, I quickly noticed she had an aversion towards orderliness.  Having a messy room was a habit since childhood, and being organized was a concept forever alien to her.  In Erin’s filing cabinet, I once found a file labeled “Stuff I Don’t Need.”  Chew on that for a while.
On the other hand, I grew up in a house that was always — and I do mean always — neat and tidy.  Even as a child, I took pride in keeping my room clean and well organized.  So it probably comes as no surprise that I often push Erin to be neater and more organized.
If we try to look at this situation “objectively,” you might suggest solutions like me working on becoming more tolerant of disorder, Erin working on being neater, or a mixture of both.  Or you might conclude we’re incompatible in this area and that we should try to find ways to reduce the level of conflict.  Basically the solution will be some kind of compromise that seeks to mitigate the symptoms, but the core issue remains unresolved.
Let’s see what the subjective lens has to say now.  This model says that my relationship with Erin is purely within my own consciousness.  So my conflict with Erin is just the projection of an internal conflict.  Supposedly my desire for Erin to be neater and more organized means that I really want to improve in this area myself.  Is that true?  Yes, I have to admit that it is.  When I criticize Erin for not being neat enough, I’m voicing my own desire to become even more organized.
This is an entirely different definition of the problem, one that suggests a new solution.  In this case the solution is for me to work on improving my own standards for neatness and order.  That’s a very different solution than what we get with the objective model.  To implement this solution, Erin needn’t even be involved.
From the standpoint of the objective model, this subjective solution seems rather foolish.  If anything it will only backfire.  Wouldn’t my working on becoming neater just increase the conflict between me and Erin?
Now here’s the really fascinating part.  When I actually tried the subjective solution by going to work on myself, Erin suddenly began taking a keen interest in becoming more organized herself.  She bought new home office furniture and assigned new homes to objects that were previously cluttering her workspace.  She hired a cleaning service to clean the house and did more decluttering before they came over.  She bought new bedroom furniture for our children.  She did a lot of purging and donated many old items to charity.  She began looking for a housekeeper and wrote up a list of cleaning tasks to be outsourced.  And I really wasn’t pushing her to do this.  If anything she started pushing me a bit.
Somehow when I worked on myself (recognizing that this is an internal issue, not an external one), Erin came along for the ride.  I’ve tested this pattern in other ways, and it continues to play out.  My ”external” relationships keep changing to keep pace with my internal relationships.  I’ve seen this effect with other people too, but it’s been most obvious with Erin and my kids, since they’re the people I spend the most time with.  It’s rather spooky at times how strong and immediate the effect is.  However, the subjective model suggests that this is exactly how reality works, so I’m glad to have a paradigm that fits the results.
I encourage you to experiment to see how your external relationships reflect your internal ones.  Try this simple exercise:  Make a list of all the things that bother you about other people.  Now re-read that list as if it applies to you.  If you’re honest you’ll have to admit that all of your complaints about others are really complaints about yourself.  For example, if you dislike George Bush because you think he’s a poor leader, could this be because your own leadership skills are sub par?  Then go to work on your own leadership skills, or work on becoming more accepting of your current skill level, and notice how George Bush suddenly seems to be making dramatic improvements in this area.
It can be hard to admit that your complaints about others are really complaints about yourself, but the upside is that your relationship issues reveal where you still need to grow.  Consequently, a fantastic way to accelerate your personal growth is to build relationships with others.  The more you interact with others, the more you learn about yourself.
I believe the true value of human relationships is that they serve as pointers to unconditional love.  According to the subjective model, when you forgive, accept, and love all parts of yourself, you will forgive, accept, and love all other human beings as they are.  The more you improve your internal relationships between your thoughts, beliefs, and intentions, the more loving and harmonious your human relationships will become.  Hold unconditional love in your consciousness, and you’ll see it reflected in your reality

Secrets for a Happy, Healthy, and Fulfilling Relationship

While you may feel completely alone and hurt, the truth is that we humans have been suffering the slings and arrows of love and heartache since time began. Because of this, you’ve got a wealth of knowledge and experience to learn from, and you can start right now.
Time-Tested Relationship Advice
If you’ve recently split with your significant other and you want to get them back, we highly recommend you read the articles on this site. It is our sincere hope that, somewhere within these pages, you can find answers to your problems. If you read long enough you’ll be a relationship expert yourself!
Relationship problems come in all shapes and sizes, and every couple is different. Some common issues we always get questions about include:
• How can I get breakup help that will make me feel better?
• Can cheating partner make things right again
• Will relationship breakup advice help me move on?
• I messed up, how can I win a woman back?
• Can I learn How to end an affair or am I in too deep?
We’ll take a deep look at all of these problems and more throughout this site, but the main thing I want you to know is that you have a friend here.
Once you read through some of these pages and start to see what some other people have been through, I know you won’t feel so alone. You’ll begin to see that everyone has these problems, and that there is some time tested relationship that can help you right now.

Secrets for a Happy, Healthy, and Fulfilling Relationship

1. Honesty – This is the cornerstone of any truly healthy relationship. Now, honesty does not mean saying, “Uh, yeah, that dress really does make you look fat,” every chance you get. That’s just a recipe for disaster. However, being honest about money, where you spend your time, and your plans for the future are all examples of honesty that a relationship needs to survive and thrive. Once deception starts to take hold in a relationship, it gets easier and easier for partners to lie to each other. What once started out as a little white lie about a bar tab or where you spent your Saturday afternoon can spiral into bigger and bigger lies? By talking regularly with your partner about the important things in your life, and sharing your fears and concerns, you cement a deeper bond.
2. Respect - This one doesn’t just apply to romantic relationship advice, it basically applies to all human relationships: work relationships, family relationships, and your relationship with your significant other. If a deep-seated disrespect is present in a relationship, it cannot continue to grow. Respect is an especially important element for men to feel from their women. Men need to feel respected at home to really feel like a man. Women also need to be respected, of course, and this is especially true of the way in which couples communicate with each other in public. For example, all couples should be very careful not to ‘put down’ or otherwise discount their partner when talking to friends or co workers. This kind of negative talk from a partner can make a man feel less like a man, and will make a woman feel unappreciated and inadequate. However, for some reason we all feel the urge to complain about our partners in public. This is a natural desire, but just be aware of this and remember to respect your partner. A key rule here I like to keep in mind: how would you feel if what you were saying about your partner was to be video taped and played for your Mother? Would you be proud of what you’re saying, or ashamed? Let that be your compass when talking about your partner with others.

3. Love – Ah, amore. What an amazingly difficult emotion to define! We all want it and crave it, and we often do some amazingly stupid things to get it, don’t we? Instead of trying to define love here, I want to dispense a few bits of relationship advice here to help you strengthen the love in your relationship. First, you need to say it. You need to tell your partner you love them all the time. Who doesn’t like to hear that they are loved? Second, you need to show it. Saying you over someone a hundred times is not as good as an act of love. This could be something as romantic as buying flowers, or as mundane as getting their car washed. The second example there isn’t as much ‘fun,’ but it’s still and act of love. Third, you must refrain from things that can damage or destroy love. Love is a fragile, living thing, and must be cared for like any other living thing. Cheating, lying, and hurtful words are like poison to a relationship, and can kill that fragile thing we call love.

4. Passion - This doesn’t just mean sex, although I’ll bet a dollar that’s what just popped in your mind. You dirty pervert, you. Just kidding, pretty much all of us associate the word passion with love making, whether we admit it or not! While love making and passion are important elements of a successful relationship, passion in a relationship can be expressed in many different ways. Successful couples find ways to be passionate towards each other outside of sex – that may mean being passionate about shared goals, future dreams, or working on something together. This could even mean becoming passionate about getting out of debt, or saving up enough money to go on a great vacation. Finding new things to get excited about is crucial to keeping a relationship going. This can also apply to the bedroom, where trying new things can be one of the best ways keep the passion alive.
5. Communication – You may have heard that you have two ears and one mouth for a reason: you should talk half as much as you listen! This is a very true axiom, and you should practice listening more in your relationship. We all want to voice our opinions and be respected, but just remember that when you listen, you are giving your partner the gift of being heard and being respected. Also, when you listen to what your partner says, they will feel much better about themselves and in turn will treat you better and listen to you more. It has to be a two way street, you cannot just listen all the time. However, by paying attention to how to two of you communicate, you can strengthen and deepen your relationship.
6. Friendship – Want to know what the best piece of relationship advice is for the long term? Friendship! At the end of the day, what we all really want is a friend to lean on a get us through the tough times this life can throw at us. Sometimes we get so caught up in the drama of ur relationships, and it’s helpful to step back and ask ourselves “Would I treat a friend this way?” If the two of you can find some common ground and common interests, that will go a long way towards a happy and fulfilling relationship. To quote, we all need somebody to lean on. Great relationship advice there,
7. Understanding – I’m no Saint, neither are you, my friend. That’s part of what makes this human experience so interesting! You need to have understanding and sympathy for your relationship to flourish. That doesn’t mean she should accept that he was out until 4am at the bar with some girl, or that he should accept verbal abuse from his girl. However, life throws lots of challenges our way, and sometimes things aren’t going to go perfectly. This is where understanding comes in. You need to have a level of understanding that things don’t always go perfectly, and if you communicate opening about your challenges, you will strengthen your relationship.

How to Handle Teenage Relationship Problems?

Teenage relationship problems are par for the course. While every relationship has its issues, during the teenage years the ups and downs seem to be magnified due to raging hormones and inexperience. Yet teens don't always recognize the signs of a troubled relationship until they are too embroiled in the situation to get out or to get out unscathed.
While there are a number of signs that pinpoint a relationship that is either not working or is in danger of falling apart, some signs that point toward a breakup are simple and can be handled easily:
1.Arguing: Avoid never-ending fights or bickering. Instead, try to reason with your partner, and understand his concerns. Do not belittle his problems. What might be a mole hill to you might be a mountain to your partner. Try to understand where he is coming from, and respect his decisions.
2.Support And Encouragement: Support your partner in his endeavors. Even if one party does not enjoy or participate in sports, the other party should respect the time and work that their partner puts into the sport in order to do well. Support your partner by attending his sporting events and allowing them the sleep and practice time needed in order to be all he can be in his chosen activity. The same is true of other activities, such as drama, school politics or after-school employment.
3.Don't Tread On Family and Friends: Never cut down your partner's family or friends. Allow your partner to maintain relationships with his friends and family. At the same time, both parties need to spend time together as a couple. This is not always easy, but can be accomplished with a little work.
4.Obsessive Behavior: Constantly checking their partner's cell phone and e-mail is a surefire way of causing issues between the two of you, as well as with his family and friends. If you respect your partner's ability to decide whom he speaks with, this issue won't arise. If you cannot deal with certain issues, such as your boyfriend taking calls from her old girlfriend, it's not unreasonable to speak with him about this. If he promises to stop and doesn't, maybe it's time to move on.
5.Controlling Demeanor: One of the toughest things to learn during teenage dating is that you should have control over your own actions, and your partner should have control over his own actions. When you become a couple, it does not mean that you control the other person's actions, speech, the way he dresses or where he hangs out, whom he hangs out with or the places he chooses to visit. If you have an issue with what your partner does in his spare time, talk to him. If some of these places and/or people are dangerous, voice your concern. If your partner doesn't agree with you, but his behavior is clearly dangerous, tell his parents. It's better to have your partner angry with you than to allow him to get into a situation that can cause bodily harm.
6.Don't Compare Relationships: Don't bring up an old boyfriend, and don't compare your current relationship to a past relationship. While you can consider the differences and similarities in your own mind, your partner will not be anxious to hear about what a former boyfriend did right and what you're doing wrong. Instead, talk about this issue with your partner in a manner that is not threatening and does not involve an old flame.
8.Dealing With Someone You Don't Want To Date: If you tell someone that you are not interested in dating him and he doesn't leave you alone, it's time to involve a higher authority, such as a parent or teacher.
9.Unhappy Relationship: If you're dating someone and you are both unhappy, it's time to end the relationship.
10.Blind Dates: If your friends set you up on a blind date and you're interested in going out, then go. But if your friends are harassing you about the situation and you don't want to see this boy, don't. The choice is always yours.
Remember, you're dating, not getting married. Teen dating should be fun. Although many relationships started in the teen years end quickly, you want to be able to have fond memories of your experiences.